Surviving the summer and staying calm: tips for adoptive parents

The summer season brings warmth, sunshine, and exciting adventures. However, for adoptive parents, this time of the year may also present unique challenges. Whether you're navigating new routines, managing heightened emotions, or simply seeking ways to stay calm amidst the summer chaos, this article is here to help.

Adoptive Parent dealing with childrens heightened emotions over the summer school holidays

Here are some valuable tips to help adoptive parents not only survive but thrive during the summer months.

Tips for adoptive parents

1. Embrace a flexible routine

While routines are crucial for stability, summer often disrupts the regular schedules children are accustomed to during the school year. Embrace the opportunity to create a flexible routine that incorporates a balance between structure and spontaneity. Outline a loose daily schedule that includes meals, outings, playtime, and rest, but be prepared to adapt as needed. This flexibility will allow for enjoyable and stress-free summer days.

2. Create a sensory-friendly environment

Summer can overwhelm children with sensory sensitivities. Take proactive steps to create a sensory-friendly environment at home. Provide a quiet space where your child can retreat when overwhelmed, incorporate sensory activities like swimming, gardening, or arts and crafts, and be mindful of loud noises or bright lights that may trigger distress. By creating a calming and accommodating atmosphere, you can help your child navigate sensory challenges more effectively.

3. Engage in outdoor adventures

Make the most of the sunny days and engage in outdoor adventures with your child. Explore local parks, go for nature walks, have picnics, or visit the beach. Outdoor activities not only provide opportunities for exercise and fresh air but also create bonding experiences and lasting memories. Encourage your child's curiosity and allow them to explore their surroundings while ensuring their safety.

By implementing these tips, you can navigate the summer months with calmness and curiosity, creating memories that will stay with you all for life.

4. Prioritise self-care

As an adoptive parent, it's essential to prioritise self-care to maintain your well-being and ability to provide support. Summer can be demanding, but taking care of yourself will enable you to better handle any challenges that arise. Find time for activities you enjoy, practice relaxation techniques such as meditation or yoga, and seek support from friends, family, or support groups. Remember, your well-being matters and is vital.

5. Stay connected

Maintaining a strong support system is crucial for adoptive parents. Reach out to other adoptive families or join online communities , like my Wellbeing and Connection Circle, to share experiences, seek advice, and find understanding. Plan playdates or outings with other (adoptive) families in your area, allowing your child to interact with others who may share similar experiences. Building connections with others who understand your unique journey can provide comfort and valuable insights.

6. Practice open communication

Effective communication is key to maintaining harmony. Encourage open and honest conversations with your child about their feelings and experiences. Validate their emotions, assure them of your love and support, and provide a safe space for them to express themselves. By fostering open communication, you can address any concerns or challenges that may arise, helping your child feel heard and understood.

7. Embrace summer learning

Summer provides an excellent opportunity for informal learning experiences. Engage your child in educational activities that align with their interests and foster their growth. Visit museums, enrol them in summer camps or workshops, encourage reading, or engage in DIY science experiments. These activities not only stimulate their minds but also encourage curiosity and a love for learning.

Surviving the summer as an adoptive parent may present unique challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, it can also be a time of growth, connection, and joy. Embrace flexibility, create a sensory-friendly environment, engage in outdoor adventures, prioritise self-care, stay connected, practice open communication, and embrace summer learning.

By implementing these tips, you can navigate the summer months with calmness and curiosity, creating memories that will stay with you all for life.

For support in prioritising your well-being and the opportunity to meet other like-minded adoptive parents who ‘get it’, join my online Wellbeing and Connection Circle which meets regularly online.

By joining us, you’ll benefit from:

• Mindset shifts of how you view certain situations.

• Understanding more about well-being and everything it entails.

• Deep relaxation through guided meditation.

• Journaling prompts to understand yourself and what you need.

• Cuppa and connection meetups.

• Whatsapp support with other adoptive parents.